{"id":73,"date":"2016-01-08T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-01-08T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/china.chinaacheru.com\/wp\/2016\/01\/08\/the-10-habits-of-long-lasting-couples\/"},"modified":"2025-12-15T07:11:27","modified_gmt":"2025-12-15T07:11:27","slug":"the-10-habits-of-long-lasting-couples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chinaacheru.com\/staging\/the-10-habits-of-long-lasting-couples\/","title":{"rendered":"The 10 Habits of Long-Lasting Couples"},"content":{"rendered":"

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By TNB Digest
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We\u2019ve all swooned at the adorable stories of couples who spend their whole lives together, and are just as much in love with each other in old age as they were right at beginning. But what is their secret? How do they manage to maintain, and strengthen, their love through the years?
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Well, psychiatrist Mark Goulston has published his advice. Read on to discover his 10 tips for lasting relationships:
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1. Go to bed together. This doesn\u2019t mean go have sex every single night, but rather go to bed at the same time. Dr. Goulston reckons that \u201chappy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times\u201d even if one gets back up shortly after. There\u2019s nothing like a bedtime cuddle!
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2. Work out your common interests. It\u2019s fine if he loves rugby while you\u2019re into painting, and you shouldn\u2019t even worry if the thing you find most boring is what really gets him going. But Dr. Goulston reminds us that the initial passion won\u2019t last forever, so you need to make sure there\u2019s some substance behind your relationship.
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\u201cIf common interests aren\u2019t present, happy couples develop them,\u201d he says. \u201cDon\u2019t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting and prevent you from appearing too dependent.\u201d Got it.
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3. Hold hands. Next time you\u2019re out together, make sure you\u2019re in sync by holding one another\u2019s hand. A public sign of affection, Dr. Goulston advises that it\u2019s a sign of real comfort. \u201cIt\u2019s more important to be with your partner than to see the sights along the way,\u201d he tells us.
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4. Always trust and try to forgive. Obviously this depends on the severity of your disagreement, but as a general rule Dr. Goulston thinks it\u2019s key to make \u201ctrusting and forgiving, rather than distrusting and begrudging\u201d your default setting after an argument.
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5. Focus on what they do right, not what they do wrong. Positive reinforcement is an age-old concept used with children and even the training of animals. But it\u2019s still important for fully grown adults too. So compliment your partner when they deserve it and try not to look for things they do wrong. \u201cYou can always find something,\u201d Dr. Goulston says.
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But that works both ways; \u201cIf you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.\u201d
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6. Don\u2019t forget to hug. Dr. Goulston urges us to hug our partner every single day (if circumstance allows). \u201cOur skin has a memory of \u2018good touch\u2019 (loved), \u2018bad touch\u2019 (abused), and \u2018no touch\u2019 (neglected),\u201d he explains. \u201cCouples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the \u2018good touch,\u2019 which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.\u201d
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7. Say \u201cI love you\u201d and \u201chave a good day\u201d every morning. Seems obvious, but it\u2019s an important one. Saying something caring like that first thing will set the other up for their day. \u201cIt\u2019s a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines, and other annoyances.\u201d
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8. Say good night, every night. Regardless of how you feel. Never go to bed on an argument. According to Dr. Goulston, even the gesture of saying good night \u201ctells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.\u201d
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9. Check in with them throughout the day. Calling your partner to see how their day is going is \u201ca great way to adjust expectations so that you\u2019re more in sync when you connect after work.\u201d So if your other half has had a nightmare of a day, you know what to expect. And you can probably get the Ben & Jerry\u2019s, in an attempt to cheer them up.
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10. Be proud to be seen together. We know there\u2019s a line between a sweet show affection and blatant PDA, but Dr. Goulston reminds us that a display of tenderness in public is important. \u201cIt\u2019s not showing off, but rather just saying that they belong with each other,\u201d he tells us. And that\u2019s quite nice.
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